Who you are and how you react to things show the truth in you.

Many thought that they know themselves well but most of the time, those around you can see the true you. Whether they are willing to tell you or not and help you to improve is another question.

Most people don’t like to be told and many don’t tell either.

Imagine having people telling you how bad of a person you are and what lousy character you have will make you feel negative for the rest of the day. Some may take weeks, months or years to recuperate.

We choose not to tell because most of us are afraid that we will hurt them and lose a friend or two. Most of us are not expert in communication therefore the more we feel that we might hurt those we spoke frankly to. We simple don’t really understand those around us. Haven’t we experienced having friend or friends who turn their back on us suddenly and we don’t even know what happen? Have we sometimes unconsciously agitate our spouse and we don’t even know it?

Truthful communication is important among family, loved ones, friends, colleagues, superiors and those around you. Thru the sincere truths, we change and become better person whom others would love to be with.

Some people has unique characters which they don’t even know. While others may have bad temper, bad habits, or too possessive, or any other unwanted character. I have experienced seeing people rubbing their private part or digging their nose or ears while talking to others.

These are habits and they are unconsciously done in the presence of others. Those around you can see what you did but you may not notice it at all. Therefore, it is always good to be conscious of what you are doing at any time.

Recently, I was called to meet a “true leader” by a friend who has been involved in Multi-Level Marketing / Network Marketing for more than 10 over years. He was happy to have such a great leader in his organisation and he made the arrangement for us to meet. Hoping that this “true leader” can arouse my interest in joining him but I ultimately said “NO”.

I warned my friend about his organisation. With the kind of uplines and the “true leader” whom I know, the organisation will collapse in a short period of time. True enough, the uplines offer the “true leader” a position to be my friend’s upline instead, at a price of S$5,000.

Imagine, if this upline goes around and start offering all the downlines the same offer, he will be rich without working on his Multi-Level Marketing business. Moreover, he can move each group in his organisation to balance up so that he can make more money for himself. On top of that, he will also snatch away some of the great builders for one of his leaders from one of his binary legs (group) to another which is weaker to maximise his own profits.

What if everyone does the same thing? What will happen to those who have work so hard to build his group but to find out that the uplines are snatching away good people in his group to be transferred to another group to support the selfish uplines.

This is common in Asia but not so in U.S.A. or Europe. American and European will duplicate the system accordingly to what they are taught. While Asian will think of ways to out-smart the system and be greedy over their own immediate success in Network Marketing or Multi-Level Marketing then to bother about building a great relationship with his organisation so that everyone is happy so as to build a long-term business.

Croaked stick produce croaked shadow. People can be judged by the cover, by the way we talk and act. That is why we need to have the right concentration, right understand, right thought, right speech, right action, right livelihood, right effort, right mindfulness.

So, Friends. I can only urge you to learn to art of living and the truth about yourself. It is the inner you that shows the outer you. Upgrade and improve yourself daily and project the best in you to those around you. You will feel the difference once you have the change in yourself as the world changes with you.